Sex After Ostomy: Yes, It’s Possible
Studies show 95% of ostomates resume sexual activity within 6 months. Your stoma has no nerve endings — it won’t feel pain or pleasure. The key is preparation and confidence.
Pre-Intimacy Checklist:
- Empty pouch 30 mins before
- Use SIIL lace pouch cover
- Wear high-waisted lingerie or SIIL belt
- Dim the lights or use candles
- Have wipes and spare pouch nearby
Pouch Covers & Intimacy Wear
Hide your pouch in style. SIIL offers:
- Lace Pouch Covers: Breathable, sexy, discreet
- High-Waisted Lingerie: Smooths and supports
- Silk Wraps: Tie around waist
“My partner didn’t even notice!” — SIIL user review
Best Sex Positions After Ostomy
Avoid pressure on stoma. Try:
- Spooning: Side-lying, zero pressure
- Partner on Top: You control depth
- Side-by-Side: Intimate eye contact
- Avoid Missionary if pouch is full
Talking to Your Partner
Be honest early. Try:
- “I had surgery — I have a pouch, but it doesn’t change how I feel about you.”
- Use humor: “It’s like a built-in whoopee cushion!”
- Show them your SIIL cover: “See? It’s cute!”
90% of partners are supportive when informed.
Dating with an Ostomy
- When to tell? After 2–3 dates, before intimacy
- Online dating? Mention in profile: “Ostomy warrior ”
- Join support groups: Meet others who get it
Body Confidence & Self-Love
- Wear SIIL high-waisted underwear daily
- Practice mirror affirmations: “My scar is my strength”
- Follow ostomy influencers on Instagram
- Join UOAA support groups
Common Myths Debunked
- Myth: Pouch will leak during sex → Rare with empty pouch + SIIL belt
- Myth: Stoma is dirty → Clean with wipes, odor-free with SIIL deodorizer
- Myth: No one will want me → Thousands date and marry post-ostomy
SIIL Intimacy Product Line
- Lace Pouch Cover (Black, Nude, Red)
- High-Waisted Lingerie Set
- Intimacy Support Belt (Discreet)
- Silk Wrap & Deodorizer Duo
Intimacy After Ostomy FAQs
Can I have sex with an ostomy?
Yes. 95% resume normal activity. Empty pouch, use cover.
Will my partner feel the pouch?
Not with SIIL lace cover or lingerie.
Best positions?
Spooning, partner on top, side-lying.
How to tell a new partner?
Be honest early. Use humor. Show your SIIL cover.
Can pouch leak during sex?
Rare. Empty before. Use SIIL belt.
How to feel sexy again?
Wear SIIL lingerie. Join support groups. Practice self-love.
